Like I said in other people's comments, I dislike coloring people with the same brush, but if you are in a comm that has shittalking and all that mixed in with the squee (i won't get into the whole 'why shouldn't you be able to squee out in the open' schtick) there's no way to tell if you were or weren't in on it.

Being in the comm won't make me defriend you (yet?) or participating, but it doesn't make me like you more either. It's definitely not a positive in my book, but to each their own. Or something.