I am wearing my "kind of an asshole" hat, isn't it pretty?

[drunkoffthestars]

BANDFLESH - I DON'T GET WHAT THE FUSS IS.

at first, I didn't get what the community was doing, then I thought it was boring, and now I kinda get why it would be entertaining (though I myself do not have a million hours to go capslock about peebabies and Teh Peen). I still haven't seen a link to the OMGRACISM (that I think started the whole to-do), and I have yet to find the bits where they SAY MEAN THINGS, so I remain utterly in the dark about why exactly there so much anti-bandflesh sentiment. Um? Yeah, I guess maybe I'd feel a little different if I was told that people were SAYING MEAN THINGS about me there, but... I dunno. I sort of feel like it is the *internet*. That's were people go to say mean things! And besides, the actual comm itself seems fairly harmless to me?

I guess I just see a difference between the way anonymity is used there and the way it is used in a lot of other situations. It is set up to be more than just some place where you can mouth off and talk smack. IDK.

You guys who hate that comm can totes defriend me over this, I guess. I'll just cry into my pillow at night. 'S cool.

But really. The actual reason I care at all about this wank is the part where one of the awesome-er (I can only say that b/c SO MANY HAVE YET TO BE POSTED) Big Bang stories got deleted when someone deleted her journal due to said wank. BUT! I did find out that my beloved Google has cached it, so I can keep it forever! \o/ I'll have to see if I can track down an email for the author, b/c I really really liked it.

Comments

[clumsygyrl.livejournal.com]

I'll go ahead and paraphrase/quote lovelypoet's response to another person who said that the community wasn't made for THAT kind of stuff and that they'd never link back to a person who was being talked about on the comm if someone was badmouthing them there.

But, theoretically, you can't possibly know who's involved and who's not. You can't ever know who is lurking. You post publicly. You don't *have* to link someone, they might already be there skimming through the stream of consciousness and roleplay and ridiculousness... because it's all fun and games until you turn a corner and get punched in the face. And they'll never know who did the punching.

so...there's that.

[clare-san.livejournal.com]

Yeah, and there is really no getting around that one, is there? I guess I have the luxury(?) of knowing that no matter where I go, the chances of anyone talking smack about me are so minuscule as to be non-existent, and that really colors my perception of things like this.

I'd like to think that my ego is sturdy enough to take it, as my perception of my own awesome is somewhat legend, but I'm probably deluding myself.

The interesting thing that I'm now thinking about is my own trust/no trust lines. I used to think they were pretty tight, as in there are only a few people who I will forever and always believe when they tell me things, but this made me realize that's not true. Purely as a thought experiment, there are bunches of people on my flist who I would be inclined to believe if they said that they were part of the comm but not one of the shit-talkers. But I guess I'd have to be in the situation to see if it'd stick. On the other hand, I tend to believe people, period, when it comes down to it. *thoughtful*

[clumsygyrl.livejournal.com]

Like I said in other people's comments, I dislike coloring people with the same brush, but if you are in a comm that has shittalking and all that mixed in with the squee (i won't get into the whole 'why shouldn't you be able to squee out in the open' schtick) there's no way to tell if you were or weren't in on it.

Being in the comm won't make me defriend you (yet?) or participating, but it doesn't make me like you more either. It's definitely not a positive in my book, but to each their own. Or something.

[clare-san.livejournal.com]

Or something indeed. People, why all so different?

[geneli4.livejournal.com]

okay, i was SO NOT READY to post that comment, and was actually trying to copy and paste to take it to my own journal to just write my thoughts out in a non-public entry instead of here, and i am SO SORRY you had to see it in your inbox. i don't think anyone saw it here, though. i was quick to hit delete! *blushes intensely*

[clare-san.livejournal.com]

*pets* hey, no problem, it happens!