I am wearing my "kind of an asshole" hat, isn't it pretty?

[drunkoffthestars]

BANDFLESH - I DON'T GET WHAT THE FUSS IS.

at first, I didn't get what the community was doing, then I thought it was boring, and now I kinda get why it would be entertaining (though I myself do not have a million hours to go capslock about peebabies and Teh Peen). I still haven't seen a link to the OMGRACISM (that I think started the whole to-do), and I have yet to find the bits where they SAY MEAN THINGS, so I remain utterly in the dark about why exactly there so much anti-bandflesh sentiment. Um? Yeah, I guess maybe I'd feel a little different if I was told that people were SAYING MEAN THINGS about me there, but... I dunno. I sort of feel like it is the *internet*. That's were people go to say mean things! And besides, the actual comm itself seems fairly harmless to me?

I guess I just see a difference between the way anonymity is used there and the way it is used in a lot of other situations. It is set up to be more than just some place where you can mouth off and talk smack. IDK.

You guys who hate that comm can totes defriend me over this, I guess. I'll just cry into my pillow at night. 'S cool.

But really. The actual reason I care at all about this wank is the part where one of the awesome-er (I can only say that b/c SO MANY HAVE YET TO BE POSTED) Big Bang stories got deleted when someone deleted her journal due to said wank. BUT! I did find out that my beloved Google has cached it, so I can keep it forever! \o/ I'll have to see if I can track down an email for the author, b/c I really really liked it.

Comments

[stele3.insanejournal.com (from livejournal.com)]

The author in question discovered that a personal friend (or more than one?) of hers had been badmouthing her on that community. I don't know if she will be back for a while, but I know she was hurt by the whole thing and I imagine she's laying low.

The racist comment in question was deleted, which caused something of a to-do in the community, since they don't believe in deleting comments. I honestly know very little beyond that.

I do agree that the community is set up to be much more than a smack-talking place. I have, however, seen it used as such several times (another one of my friends was emailed a link, presumably by someone in the community, to an anonmeme dogpiling her). People, myself included, feel paranoid about their flists and who might be talking smack about them, since that's also happened a couple of times. Which is a damn shame, because there are perfectly lovely people in bandflesh; however, by definition, I can't tell the good from the bad. So it's one big mess.

[clumsygyrl.livejournal.com]

i know of at least one person who i consider a friend (yes, shared my share of cuddles and hang times with and who i've know for almost 6 years) who was badmouthed on there.

the entire community - sadly, i suppose - has been colored by that experience.

anonymity is fine and dandy. but if your reason to be anonymous is to squee about random shit... then sorry you don't have that opportunity to squee with your name attached to it?

but to each their own.

[woebetidesweets.livejournal.com]

I don't either. I guess, with me. I keep my private journal and my bandom journal separate. And I don't go starting shit or talking shit. I mean. We're all here for the porn. The phrase "BNF" is so fucking ridiculous to me. It's a joke, as far as I'm concerned. And if you're gonna identify as one or try to be one or whatever- you gotta be prepared to stand the heat. Like. Hate is what the internet's about. You put yourself out there, you get burned.

This isn't even in reference to this particular situation, or anyone involved in it. XD Tbh, I only know the vague details about what happened. I'm just generally feeling a large lack of sympathy for bandom drama lately. It's such a waste of everyone's time, you know?